Relationships are always a big issue in life – the only one. We spend life thinking and worrying how to relate with others, how deeply or superficially we should involve ourselves with them. We often get into all kinds of entanglements. And each relationship promises pleasure in the beginning then turns sour. Some create insecurity, others make us dependent.
Some relationships appear so beautiful we don’t want to lose them and become possessive. Then comes bondage leading to suffering and misery. Relationships create extreme reactions in our being – either we become possessive or start escaping. And these extreme situations are not healthy and harmonious. They have nothing much to do with love – they are weaknesses, dependence on others. They keep our mind, heart and emotions in turmoil. They are not nourishing.
Love is real nourishment but it has nothing much to do with the way we relate with people.
Love is a pure joy but these relationships suck our life and leave us in anguish. What is the way then? How to go beyond bondage and misery?
Osho guides us: My vision of a real humanity is of pure individuals relating to each other but not tied in any relationship. They will be loving to each other but not being possessive. They will be sharing with all their joys and blessings, but never even in their dreams thinking of dominating, thinking of enslaving the other.
My vision of real humanity is of a world consisting not of families, nations or races, but individuals.
He says: “Going beyond needs, demands, desires, love becomes a soft sharing, great understanding. When you understand yourself, that day you have understood whole of humanity. Then nobody can make you miserable…”